Self Sabotage and Hustle Culture.

Chris Bowness
3 min readFeb 21, 2022

The feeling is the real goal.

At the root of all our problems, it’s about how you are wanting to feel, that’s the ultimate goal.

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If you were to wake up happy, joy or excitement tomorrow morning it would scare the s&*t out of you because it would be death to the mind, it would be death to the ego.

When we are feeling, or not feeling, something in our life, when we are experiencing a lack of happiness, joy, excitement, or even safe and contentment the mind will take this on as a problem to solve.

However, it will create mind like goals and try to solve the problem, it will make it 10k a month or if you could just reach 5 new clients or lose so much weight, or even a person. Or these days if you could grow your audience or gain more followers.

At the root of all this is not the goal itself, but the true goal is how you want to feel once you’e achieved the goal. Although the mind will treat this feeling goal as a carrot on a stick, always keeping that feeling just out of reach, just over the next peak, just around the next corner.

This is how the mind will constantly keep self sabotaging us and keeping us from the actual goal. If we were to wake up and actually feel then the ego would feel like it would have nothing else to do.

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Chris Bowness

Personal development, wellbeing, transformation and unique practical magic. Creator of the Nurture Map and host of the Becoming Quantum podcast.